As our country gets close to another election and my evening’s entertainment is pelted with people trying to discredit one another, I find myself wishing we would all be more like my first lesson in marketing: NEVER denigrate the competition. It’s not professional.
And if that is not reason enough, being negative just makes you look bad with the people you are most trying to impress–so why?
It’s also a good reminder to watch my own language, to be sure I am always being respectful of everyone I come in contact with.
Here are a couple of the things I am working on:
- Being fully present. For me this means being a better listener and not trying to help the person communicating, especially when they just want be heard. When I listen deeply I can pick up on their mood more readily.
- Asking more questions rather than guessing their intent. I used to have a program that it’s not polite to ask questions. I now know that asking is a sign of respect most of the time. In addition, a question that helps the other know themselves or their situation better is much more valuable than tons of advice.
What about you? What communications make you cranky? How can you change that?