What is Good Enough? 80% or 90%?

rock-stack-extra-right-hand 600x599How do you define “good enough”?

How do you know when a project is done? Sauce seasoned perfectly?

Years ago a boss told me, “Your version of okay is most people’s really good (picture me smiling). And I do not mean that as a compliment (picture me frowning). Stop revising and get this document out the door!” After my ego recovered from it’s dramatic turnaround I realized how much agony went into my work and how little benefit was achieved, especially when writing.

A few years after that I heard the term analysis paralysis, and was grateful to have a term for my over-zealousness. (My father did not use his Mac computer for weeks after purchasing it because he had not finished reading the manual. I think I know where I acquired this penchant for analysis and planning.)

KC_OverTheHump_Masthead 230x200Then I learned a new philosophy, “80% and out the door.” I embraced that for a while, but realized there were times when 98% was what I wanted and others when 60% was right.

Today my mantra is “done is better than perfect.”* It helps me push send on this email newsletter when I have only reviewed it twice, or have just one more thought to add; or share project ideas with colleagues when I really want to research them more. I think this takes courage,

  • to know my colleagues and friends will still like me and my work even if it’s not always exceptional
  • to hear feedback and new ideas with an open mind
  • to know I am okay when others disagree with me

What about you? Any great mantras for moving forward? How do you know what’s good enough?

Joyful regards,

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* I learned this from amazing interior designer Laura Robbins. Thanks!

 

How is Life Like Eating an Apple?

apples iStock_93376911 700x700I recently heard a story about a man who moved to a region where apples were plentiful and could not stop eating them, downing up to 20 per day.

I think the story teller embellished a bit, however it did remind me of the first time I tasted a fresh-picked apple when I first moved to New England. Two decades later I still have vivid memories of the amazingness of it.

It was super crisp and juicy. It tasted like sunshine and rain coming together, with honey and a hint of tartness. It was similar to, and yet so very different from, the experience of a grocery store apple.

KC_OverTheHump_Masthead 230x200Now as I drive past apple orchards, watching the ripening this year’s crop my mouth waters. I realize how when I eat really fresh, tasty food I slow down and savor every bite. What if I did that with all my food? All my life experiences?

For sure it has me paying closer attention and working to notice deeply into these final warm days of summer. What are you savoring?

Joyful regards,

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Who’s Afraid of the Giant Green Worm?

Photo courtesy of Univ of MD

Photo courtesy of Univ of MD

It’s summer, so I have to talk about giant green tomato worms.

A decade ago in my first real garden I found a GIANT green tomato worm. It was as big around as my thumb and longer, much longer. As it turned it’s face to me I half expected it to say, “Hello Lisa, what’s cooking?”, like in a cartoon.

I realized that under my fascination I was scared of it, wanting to remove it from my tomatoes so I’d have a few to eat myself, but not wanting to touch it or even go near it with gloves. Then I saw how zany I was being, and laughed out loud.

The worm is not poisonous or threatening in any real way. I realized that my fear of this worm is like most fears in my life–made larger by my mind than the reality of the situation calls for.

Help or Hindrance: How Do To-Do Lists Affect You?

open to learningI’m really good at making to-do lists, not so great at completing all the items on them.

I feel powerful and organized when making the list; then manic as I try to complete everything in the time allotted; then frustrated and disappointed with myself when I don’t complete everything.

Do you create these lists too? They range from dinner party menus, to birthday party or product launch organization, to life goals.

I’m Feeling Brave

One Insight for Greater Self-Awareness

Another day!

Another day!

I’m feeling brave.

I had plans to ski with my dear friend Marci. I love spending time with Marci, even more than skiing. We are both avowed fair weather skiers, so when the day dawned with sleet that was blowing sideways we called one another to talk about our plans.

Most of the time I would have ditched skiing and gone to the movies with Marci. For some reason on this day I heard the words, “I’m feeling brave” come out of my mouth. Pondering this outburst, I realized I really did want to brave the elements. Marci pondered my words and realized she was not in that kind of mood, so we agreed to get together another time.*

I had a pretty good time skiing. I felt strong and brave and tried some new things. I grew physically and emotionally that day.

You Have Already Won

One Insight for Self-Awareness

iStock_000005123017Small1You Have Already Won.

Last Monday I got to listen to a wonderful speech by that title.  Fellow Toastmaster, Tim Greenwood, expounded on the topic wonderfully.  He started by being a bit obsessed with getting “like”s on his phone, then transitioned to the benefits of doing it your way.

More important, he talked about doing it your way in a new and different way.  He encouraged us to something new.  It doesn’t really matter whether we gain or lose by the effort, it’s the trying that makes us a winner.

Make Up Your Mind

Find Small Things To Be Happy About

Photo courtesy of Women’s Wilderness Retreats www.danjacdesign.com/WWR/

“You’re about as happy as you make up your mind to be.”  This is what I heard from my dad when I asked for words of wisdom at his birthday celebration a while ago.

Dad did not remember who said it, but had found it useful in his life. Turns out they are from Abraham Lincoln, and more powerful because Lincoln suffered from clinical depression and said this before Positive Psychology was “discovered.”

As the weather here in New England gets COLD and icy, I get frustrated with the amount of effort needed to be outside, even to get the mail.  Layers of clothing, boots, crampons for the boots so I don’t slip on the ice. ARGH! Then I remember my folks growing up in Michigan before fleece, down jackets, and wool socks that do not itch, and realize how easy things are for me.

My Love–Hate Relationship with Christmas

And how to lean toward love

I love Christmas and the holidays.

I get to guiltlessly sing along with John Denver and the Muppets at full volume (when no one is around), just sit and stare at the Christmas tree decorated with treasures gathered from near and far over many years, bake a lot, gather with family and friends, and drink milk loaded with fat and sugar (eggnog).

So why do I have bouts of feeling miserable during these lovely days?  When I do allow myself to pause for a few minutes, I realize it’s because I load my plate too full–then take that list seriously.  How crazy is that?

The Most Important Thing to Be Grateful For

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Look at the familiar with fresh eyes – Kit Night

As most of you know, gratitude can play a key role in our having a satisfying, successful life.

It’s one of the reasons I am grateful that I started my newsletter on Wednesdays–writing about gratitude is almost a requirement on this day before our Thanksgiving holiday.

This year I have been pondering the idea of starting to give thanks at the source.

The source I am talking about is ourselves. We have to focus on our own nurturing in order to create and sustain a healthy body, mind, and spirit. read on>>

One Sure Way to Bring Joyfulness to Thanksgiving

acorn2 free DSC02129We all love Thanksgiving, right?  It’s such a great holiday that even people who did not grow up here in the United States typically embrace Thanksgiving.

And, the day itself can have it’s challenges and stresses–too much to do, at one time, with lots of cooks in the kitchen. And the kitchen is hot.

Here’s my request for each and every one of you: find a way to remind yourself to pause for a moment to think DEEPLY of the things you are grateful for. Go beyond the usual things like family, friends, pumpkin pie, and cable TV.

What about deep abiding love that you have worked hard for?  Or a connection with a long lost friend? Or running water that comes out of the tap clean, fresh and the exact temperature you would like it to be?

Your reminder can be setting an alarm on your phone (or regular clock!), wearing a special piece of jewelry or sweater so that you will pause when you notice it, or a doorway you walk through, or a smile on someone’s face.  If you make a plan to have something trigger you to pause, chances are that you will.

Then allow that pause to resonate with the core of your humanity, to fully feel Joyfulness.