I love my work. I am lucky that I get to do stuff I like most of the day. The people I work with treat me well. I hope they think I treat them well.
And, there are parts of my day that I do not enjoy. Since one of my main focuses in work (and life) is Creating Joyful Work, I spent some time pondering this potential conundrum.
It’s kind of like eating pineapple. I LOVE pineapple, especially when I can find a really fresh one with lots of flavor.* Then there’s the process of cutting off the rind and getting all the tough bits out without wasting too much of the delicious fruit, when all I want to do is sit down to a large bowl of luciousness.
I love this phrase because really… who is the hardest on me? Me!
Since I heard this phrase and started thinking about the things I “should do” versus the things that are true to my core values and not a result of my programming, I realize how often I am doing, or even thinking, things that are not in alignment with who I am.
In addition, when I asked myself where that program came from, I usually made that up too, then blame the other person so I don’t have to take responsibility for being so hard on myself.
Ahh, the joys of the human psyche. I am sure there are more levels to this, but for now it’s Friday afternoon and I am just going to focus on letting go of the shoulds.
What about you? Are you hard on yourself? What programs are you ready to let go of?
Every day do One Big Thing.
Here’s the catch, OBT usually takes just a few minutes! “Big” refers to getting outside of our comfort zone, not to taking a long time or investing a lot of resources.
Here’s how I started. To stay focused on the projects and tasks we deemed important, my colleague Todd and I send an email to each other at the end of the day. The email states how well we did in terms of planning our day and sticking to our plan; then finishes with whether we did OBT that day.
Before you transition into weekend mode, please take one minute to write down one instance of Joyful Work from your week – either created or acknowledged.
You can share in the comments below, send an email to a friend, write it on a Post-it so it greats you on Monday morning…or?
Just do it! You will feel more joyful, I guarantee it!
I practice yoga that is very, very mellow. The focus is relaxation and rejuvenation. Many of the postures take place lying on the floor and are held for a long time so the body has a chance to let go. I like to do a little each night before I go to sleep for obvious reasons.
This is fine in the summer when temperatures are warm. In the winter lying on the floor late in the evening is not very inviting. I looked into getting one of those long hot-pads like massage therapists use, but discovered they are a bit expensive. I did not want to invest a lot into something I was not sure would make a difference in my practice.
Opening our hearts in order to be more available to give love and support is a little scary.
Opening our hearts in order to be more available to receiving love and support is a LOT scary.
Being more available to receiving love and support usually involves making a request. Most of us have a hard time making requests, especially direct requests.
The good news: It gets easier with practice.
I used to think that I am not creative because I cannot draw or paint. Even my stick figures are pretty horrid.
Then a couple of decades ago I realized that my love of cooking and entertaining, even if it started with a recipe, was creative. I even began to see my career in high-tech as having some creative aspects to it. As a consultant, one of the most exciting aspects is getting to create goals, project and methodologies for my clients. (It’s also one of the most daunting aspects, but I save that discussion for another time.)
As I better understand creativity, I realize it is present in every aspect of our lives… not just creating a painting. It can be with us in most activities–from driving a new route to getting to know a stranger. More important, it is a good way to strengthen our physical and mental health, and it’s easier than we think.
Why do we human beings have such a hard time accepting support? Recently I went through a challenging family process, and the minute I talked with an expert, I felt the weight of the world life from my shoulders.
I was no further along that 60 seconds prior, but I FELT lots more peaceful and hopeful. I knew that others had traveled a similar path and come out okay. Perhaps even stronger.
However, that was easy because it was a situation I did not know much about. Most of the time I avoid asking for help and support. I want to be independent, capable, self-sufficient. Mostly, I want to avoid feeling like I owe others.
That’s the big joke. One of the best ways to deepen a relationship is to truly be of service. We humans like to help. We like to feel useful. I believe it’s a rare situation where the helper feels like the person they have helped owes them. It’s one of the best ways to deepen a relationship is to truly be of service.
So this week I will ask for support at least one time when I REALLY do not want to. Who wants to join me?
I vividly remember that Wednesday morning 3 years ago when I clicked on the button that would send Over the Hump to hundreds of my colleagues, friends and family.
Many emotions were coursing through me–fear, doubt, and the thrill of achievement. I had thought about doing a weekly newsletter for a long time, but all the usual questions kept me from moving forward–time, how to, what to say.
The biggest fear of all was,
I’ve spent much of the last couple of weeks working with my mom to handle a challenging family situation. Now that the majority of the work is behind us, healing and growing past the frustrations, anger and fear is our main focus.
As I think about moving forward, I know that the fastest, most healthy way to do that is for everyone involved to continue to be honest, supportive and collaborative.
So, as I came here to write about business this morning I am can only think of how important personal relationships are to EVERY aspect or our lives. Here are a few insights