It’s summer, so I have to talk about giant green tomato worms. A decade ago in my first real garden I found a GIANT green tomato worm. It was as big around as my thumb and longer, much longer. As it turned it’s face to me, I half expected it to start talking to me, like in a cartoon.
I realized that under my fascination I was still scared of it, wanting to remove it from my tomatoes so I’d have a few to eat myself, but not wanting to touch it, or even go near it with gloves. Then I saw how zany I was being.
The worm is not poisonous or threatening in any real way. I realized that my fear of this worm is like most fears in my life–made larger by my mind than the reality of the situation calls for.
I think most humans have irrational fears. I think the fastest way to let them go is to let ourselves feel them fully. So I am sharing my top fears here in an attempt to feel and let go:
- Nervous about walking into a business networking event
- Afraid that no one will come to the party I am throwing, or meet me at the restaurant where we plan to have lunch
- Having a hard time getting started on a project, though I know I will enjoy it once I am going
- Saying “I’m sorry” when it’s really important
I have a couple of practices (when I remember them) that help me move through these fearful stages!
- Ask myself if it’s truly something I want. If yes, this helps me take that important first step. If no, it helps me to let it go and put my energy to more productive use.
- Do one thing to get started. Write the first sentence, look up the phone number, or draft the email with no name in the “To” field.
- Think about the bigger picture, or longer term (yeah, I know I say this a lot…it’s that powerful).
What are the giant green tomato worms in your work? Do any of these techniques resonate with you?
What techniques do you have? Please share by posting a comment.