Last week as I wrote about looking in the mirror and exclaiming this lovely, true sentiment to ourselves, I realized it’s a great way to see the magnificence in others–especially those folks who make us cranky.
A long time ago I was venting to a friend about a family member who I found hard to be around. He was raised with every advantage and education, yet was demanding, opinionated, and closed-minded. Even a mildly different opinion was not tolerated in conversation.
I had spent a couple of evenings around the dinner table listening to him during a family visit and was now venting to my friend. She replied, “Lisa, it sounds like he wants your approval.” WHAT??!!
How could this person who had so much advantage in his life, had lived more than me in many ways, want my good opinion? But, after pondering a bit I knew she was right. She advised me to just find one thing I liked about him. Then tell him.
What a challenge. But I did it, and was glad. Evenings around the dinner table were still boring, but I was not nearly as cranky with him, or cranky that I was stuck in the situation.
And, I realized that everyone has something to like. When each of us looks to find something to like in everyone else, we are more joyful. It doesn’t really matter if it affects the other person.
Writing last Wednesday I realized that one of the best ways to find something to like about another person is to say “Hello Magnificent!” to them. I practiced it this over the last week and found it really useful, and fun. At this point I am still saying it to myself, but soon I will say it out loud. Won’t that be fun!
It’s a great reminder that we humans have so much more in common than the differences that we let separate us. Magnificence is all around us. It just takes a moment to recognize it.
My best wishes for an amazing day, and week. See you next Wednesday!