How Do You Define Trust?

Is Listening a Factor?

rock arch 180x270pxLast week I talked about listening and trust.

I realize that I started the post asking, “How do you define trust?”, but did not really answer that question as I discussed how listening can increase trust.

So I am back this week to ponder it more fully. Wanting to understand the word “trust” I turned once again to the dictionary.  Here’s what I found:

1. reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

2. confident expectation of something; hope.
I find it interesting that “confide” is present in both of the top definitions of trust. It brings home the idea that trust is based on, and enhanced by, confiding or communicating with one other.
As I further ponder the idea of trust, I realize it’s about trusting and accepting ourselves first. Like the old saying, “To have a good friend, you have to be a good friend”, building trust with others means trusting ourselves first.  It sounds strange that we might not trust ourselves, but the amount of negative self talk that goes through most of our minds every day gives another viewpoint.

To me the most helpful way to leave that negative self-talk behind is to remind myself that we are all human beings, with the foibles, frustrations, divinity and joy that comes with that.  In other words, “We all have our stuff.”
When I remember that I have more compassion for myself, and can then trust that doing my best is doing okay.

Allowing myself to feel that helps me trust others as well. Then I am more able to open up and communicate, creating a virtuous circle.

What does trust mean to you? What helps you get to the core of trusting yourself and others?  Please share to help us all learn by commenting below.

Have a Joyful Wednesday!

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